When someone asks adult male fans to be respectful of the fact that a show is primarily meant for the entertainment and enrichment of young girls and the response is, “No, but you don’t understand, this show is actually high quality,” that’s… pretty revealing.
I would love and appreciate any added examples, thoughts, and opinions y’all have, please chime in!
ex.) I don’t know if this is sacred or important but I am going to take it and wear it because it will make me look worldly and unique.
ex.) I do not know much about Native Americans so I am going to go to this powwow, watch, and ask questions. If I see a necklace I want to buy I will ask the seller if it is appropriate for me to have this. I will also ask the seller what it may mean and the history behind it. When I wear it later and someone asks me about it I will tell them what the person who sold it to me said.
Appropriation: participating, misusing, or applying a cultural aspect that does not belong to you without permission and/or without having earned the right to do so.
Appreciation: I will research this culture. I will study their history, their art, dance, and music. I will learn what I can in a respectful manner. I will not participate in activities that are not meant for me. If I am invited into an activity I will ask about how to show respect and what to do.
If the mean people in our lives were crappy 100% of the time, it would be easy to leave them. We would shrink from becoming friends with them or jump aboard the nope rocket in the early stages of trouble, and we would feel only relief when they are gone from our lives.
The problem is that very few people are evil all the time. They don’t wear villain costumes purchased at ForeverEvil. They don’t laugh maniacally and stroke their evil goatees while monologuing about their evil plans. They appear in our lives as People-Who-Would-Be-Awesome-Except-For-That-One-Glaring-Problem. They have potential to be awesome, and sometimes they are awesome, and they make us feel awesome, so we relax and let out that breath we’ve been holding in, and then BAM! They show their mean side, and we do a ton of mental work trying to reconcile the mean stuff with the awesome stuff.
Breaking up brings relief, as you lose the constant mental labor of managing the relationship AND the stress of being constantly disappointed and hurt, but it also brings grief. Shitty people who forget your birthday and give little backhanded compliments and gossip about your secrets sometimes give really good hugs, or presents, or are your favorite people to get drunk and watch figure-skating with, or were the sole witness to an important time in your life. The good times were real."
passive aggressive family members
"guess i’ll never be a grandma"
"guess i’ll never be an aunt"
"guess i’ll never be able to dress a niece/nephew"
stop feeling so entitled to my hypothetical offspring. it is not yours. it is mine. i will grow it if i grow it. and it will be mine. not yours. i am not an incubator which grants you familial titles. jesus. go away. this “have a baby i can play with” thing is so impersonal and insensitive and annoying.