When I say “boys are dumb” what I really mean is “boys have been raised in a patriarchal society that forces them into an incorrect and problematic view of masculinity that not only forces them to strip away valuable virtues from themselves, like patience and gentleness, but also forces them them to view and treat women in unhealthy ways that devalues women as people and makes them into objects purely for a man’s benefit”
but it’s a lot faster to say “boys are dumb”
destroy this “more than friends” bullshit
destroy this disgusting fucking idea that being in a romantic relationship is more important/closer than being in a platonic relationship
destroy the idea that friendships are less than romances
destroy the idea that you need to be romantically involved with someone if you want to be really close to them
And I guess that’s part of why, on top of shock and fear and safety concerns, so many of us freeze and don’t do anything when we know for sure that someone has harassed us or assaulted us, because there is still the always seeded (and unjustified!) doubt: did I do something wrong, am I something wrong, to deserve that?"
curled up like a question mark
come and answer me"